Relationships can be fickle things as I am sure you know. The longer you are together with the right person the quicker you are to make allowances for their behavioural changes and either accept the situation as it is or make something from it. These past few years have been challenging in many ways, and […]
In the UK during the Georgian period (1714-1830) it was fashionable for the rich and famous to attend events held in London’s Pleasure Gardens. It was in some respect the start of commercialised leisure whereby tickets were sold at prices that only those with a disposable income could afford. One might assume that only those […]
Despite the fact we don’t do a great deal of flogging, I do enjoy it. I would probably say that I have never really executed a flogging scene, or a scene that involved much flogging, depending on your point of view. My initial attraction to flogging was the look of them, and of the smell. […]
Lock down has produced a number of challenges for everyone, it’s a sliding scale. Each day it becomes more normal, things that bothered you before now don’t, and things that didn’t now do, albeit temporarily. I admit that I find the slow pace of life nice. The lack of cars, people and general background noise […]
Даже боль имеет свою радость. (Russian Proverb) Even pain has its joy, is so very true. This saying is old and has travelled well; unless of course you are remembering the Ukrainian 2007 entry in the Eurovision Song Contest. (puts fingers in ears) However, aside from the chemical formulae that is often banded about to […]
When I first entered into the world of D/s I was continually being told that control was the be-all and end-all of of the relationship. To be dominant you not only had to be in control, you really had to get off on it otherwise you were not really a Dominant. Well for starters, I […]
Before starting to write this post I thought I would read a few notes on what physiologists say about sexual fantasy. The main thread was that there is still not enough evidence to conductively map a person’s sexual fantasy to the reasons behind it. So before you go off and spend a load of money on […]
When the topic of training was decided for #tellmeabout I felt comfortable that it would be a fairly straight forward subject to write about. I was wrong! I normally write without reading other’s entries, however, leaving it so late I fell into the trap of reading all the posts before getting to mine; this made […]
In a dark corner of warehouse there is probably is a man desperately trying to make a reset button. His vision is that when you hit it, all previous misdemeanours are evaporated without discussion and everything starts again, like a new day. But this man, whilst being a visionary, is ironically short-sighted. If such a […]
The word ‘scene’ in a D/s context is pretty well chosen when you consider one of the general definitions; ‘a sequence of continuous action in a play, film, opera, or book.’ I suppose to some extent sexual play is an opera, film, book or play; lots of drama, slightly voyeuristic from a Dom’s perspective, staged […]