Pleasure

Lock down has produced a number of challenges for everyone, it’s a sliding scale.  Each day it becomes more normal, things that bothered you before now don’t, and things that didn’t now do, albeit temporarily. I admit that I find the slow pace of life nice. The lack of cars, people and general background noise […]

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Pain

Даже боль имеет свою радость. (Russian Proverb) Even pain has its joy, is so very true.  This saying is old and has travelled well; unless of course you are remembering the Ukrainian 2007 entry in the Eurovision Song Contest. (puts fingers in ears) However, aside from the chemical formulae that is often banded about to […]

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Control #tellmeabout

When I first entered into the world of D/s I was continually being told that control was the be-all and end-all of of the relationship. To be dominant you not only had to be in control, you really had to get off on it otherwise you were not really a Dominant. Well for starters, I […]

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Fantasies #tellmeabout

Before starting to write this post I thought I would read a few notes on what physiologists say about sexual fantasy. The main thread was that there is still not enough evidence to conductively map a person’s sexual fantasy to the reasons behind it.  So before you go off and spend a load of money on […]

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Training #Tellmeabout

When the topic of training was decided for #tellmeabout I felt comfortable that it would be a fairly straight forward subject to write about. I was wrong!  I normally write without reading other’s entries, however, leaving it so late I fell into the trap of reading all the posts before getting to mine; this made […]

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Resets – #Tellmeabout

In a dark corner of warehouse there is probably is a man desperately trying to make a reset button.  His vision is that when you hit it, all previous misdemeanours are evaporated without discussion and everything starts again, like a new day.  But this man, whilst being a visionary, is ironically short-sighted.  If such a […]

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Scenes – #Tellmeabout

The word ‘scene’ in a D/s context is pretty well chosen when you consider one of the general definitions; ‘a sequence of continuous action in a play, film, opera, or book.’ I suppose to some extent sexual play is an opera, film, book or play; lots of drama, slightly voyeuristic from a Dom’s perspective, staged […]

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Analise This

I would imagine that a lot of posts on this subject reflect on female subs receiving anal sex.  There may be one or two that don’t, so for balance, this one won’t; or at least it won’t be dominated by the interactions of missy’s love of having her arse played with, although I may steer […]

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Consent –

If I were to reflect on my teenage years, specifically the occasions where sex was involved, I would have to say there are some blurred lines, and in one or two situations a clear step over the line. For the purpose of balance, it would be wrong of me not to mention where my consent […]

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Rituals

Over the years missy and I have tried numerous rituals.  Most of them have fallen by the wayside, mainly due to the fact they either were not practical, or, in truth, they did not mean enough to me to continue with them.  We too have tried kneeling, bum in air on the bed, slave positions, […]

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