Eating, from the outside

Missy recently posted a very open and honest piece on her relationship with food over the years.  To me there wasn’t any surprises contained in the layer cake of paragraphs, however, I was surprised when missy suggested I write something for the mental health meme from the perspective of someone with a partner who has […]

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Ringing the Changes

If you subscribe to my blog you know that I don’t produce masses of work.  I write when I feel like writing, sometimes weeks pass until I get that worm in my head.  The other issue is that I also have The SafeworD/s Club site that needs material and attention.  I haven’t been able to […]

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Control #tellmeabout

When I first entered into the world of D/s I was continually being told that control was the be-all and end-all of of the relationship. To be dominant you not only had to be in control, you really had to get off on it otherwise you were not really a Dominant. Well for starters, I […]

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Fantasies #tellmeabout

Before starting to write this post I thought I would read a few notes on what physiologists say about sexual fantasy. The main thread was that there is still not enough evidence to conductively map a person’s sexual fantasy to the reasons behind it.  So before you go off and spend a load of money on […]

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Mentors

I have been fortunate enough, at an early age, to have mentors in my life.  Not just people who tell you stuff or instruct you; I am referring to people that give something of themselves whilst at the same time impart wisdom and support you.  My first real mentor was my father, who from a […]

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You Need Hands

I am currently working at a hospital in a non-medical related position.  It’s very odd at first being in such a place when you don’t really need to be there.  Not necessarily a fraud, but certainly out of place feeling quite well!  As for the sick people, well there are loads of them cluttering up […]

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Say The Right Thing; or not!

Oh my god, I laughed so hard. Not at the poor individual that made himself look stupid in front of his wife and councillor by using an unfamilar term; it was because I have done it too. The very quick back story is that a couple go to see a sex therapist as part of […]

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Read All About It (Part 2)

‘Read All About It’  brings you an insight into the what the media are saying about sex and relationships.  Whilst I tend to think some of what is printed is fit for the bottom of a bird cage, you can find some jewels amoungst the muck! That should not distract you from you own opinions, […]

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