No Typical Conversation

I have often said that D/s can provide people with a level of openness that is safe and protected.  The relationship is based on trust, trust to expose your heart and soul without accusation or retribution.  A D/s relationship is the grown up version of the average relationship I like to think.  It isn’t just […]

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Contagion

Reflecting on the past couple of months activities, I realised the value of being with people who are like-minded.  Ignoring a working environment for a moment, unless you are engaged in the sex industry in one form or another, its the kinky and sexual side I refer to. As you are aware, missy and I […]

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Starting Out

Since we started the SWC I have had the pleasure of reading the hopes, dreams and exasperations of both subs and Doms.  One recurring theme is the sometimes disparity between a couples’ starting point into D/s and the speed at which they move forward. It is pretty safe to say that the first one over […]

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Dom Drop

In a recent chat event on the SWC many subs were interested to hear about Dom Drop, what that felt like for a Dom and what caused it.  I was asked to write something on the subject, so here goes! Before I touch on my own personal experience, I decided to do a little research […]

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What’s the plan Stan?

In my first post of the year I mentioned that I would be spending more time planning, and that I felt it was a key component of a D/s relationship, or any relationship for that matter!  I have often heard that even a well constructed plan never survives first contact with enemy, and in principle […]

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Cause and Effect

I finally managed to get an hour of Missy’s time alone on Saturday morning before any of the kids got out of bed.  We were up early for a Sunday and had wiggle room to get some D/s(ing) in. “I would really like fuck you,” I said, “but I think we should talk instead, we […]

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Bumber Command

I suppose,  with each strike of my hand,  it is not dissimilar to a series of small explosions going through my sub’s brain.  My hand lands with a sharp slap and the energy is released through a wave of ripples travelling across her skin.  I wonder if the ripples travel up her spine to her […]

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La La Land

I’ve been doing this D/s thing long enough to meet a great number of people, most on line, a few face to face on camera and, heavens forbid, some even in person! I like meeting new people, getting to know them, taking advice, sharing opinions and generally enjoying myself. I said in my previous post […]

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In The Beginning

I don’t think I have ever taken the time to reflect on the opening days and weeks of my life in a D/s relationship. I may have dabbled a toe, but never have I written something for a person about to start a D/s lifestyle would find helpful.  You should know that I am overly […]

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