Glass Half Full or Empty?

It’s been sometime since I wrote something personal, for which I really have no excuse other than not having the desire to it.  This morning though is different.  I came down to the kitchen to be welcomed by our puppy in the usual ‘I’ve not seen your for years’ type excitement and a big smile […]

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Always Watching

I’ve not posted in sometime. A literary desert as it were. Most of the time inspiration is readily available, and usually because I have something to say about it. I’ve just not had the inertia for it, until today that is!  No, it’s not a rant, although, since buying a dog and walking her, I […]

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It’s Okay To Be Not-Normal

There’s always chat about vanilla and non-vanilla activity in a D/s relationship.  They are only words that help people understand what’s going on at the time, a bit like ‘You Are Here’ on a laminated tourist map. I’m sure you have your own thoughts on such terms and whether you like them or not.  I […]

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Is anyone there?

Do you use your blog to communicate to your partner? Don’t worry, this isn’t a deep and meaningful post full of dramatic skylines and prosaic monologue!  I’m just curious if you are in a similar position. Missy and I have the ability to communicate quite well  (although there’s always room for improvement) and not all […]

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No Typical Conversation

I have often said that D/s can provide people with a level of openness that is safe and protected.  The relationship is based on trust, trust to expose your heart and soul without accusation or retribution.  A D/s relationship is the grown up version of the average relationship I like to think.  It isn’t just […]

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Contagion

Reflecting on the past couple of months activities, I realised the value of being with people who are like-minded.  Ignoring a working environment for a moment, unless you are engaged in the sex industry in one form or another, its the kinky and sexual side I refer to. As you are aware, missy and I […]

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Starting Out

Since we started the SWC I have had the pleasure of reading the hopes, dreams and exasperations of both subs and Doms.  One recurring theme is the sometimes disparity between a couples’ starting point into D/s and the speed at which they move forward. It is pretty safe to say that the first one over […]

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Dom Drop

In a recent chat event on the SWC many subs were interested to hear about Dom Drop, what that felt like for a Dom and what caused it.  I was asked to write something on the subject, so here goes! Before I touch on my own personal experience, I decided to do a little research […]

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What’s the plan Stan?

In my first post of the year I mentioned that I would be spending more time planning, and that I felt it was a key component of a D/s relationship, or any relationship for that matter!  I have often heard that even a well constructed plan never survives first contact with enemy, and in principle […]

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Cause and Effect

I finally managed to get an hour of Missy’s time alone on Saturday morning before any of the kids got out of bed.  We were up early for a Sunday and had wiggle room to get some D/s(ing) in. “I would really like fuck you,” I said, “but I think we should talk instead, we […]

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