There She Blows!

The Blue Whale could be the largest example of Dominance and Submission on the planet. What is he talking about now you may think? Obviously there is no direct connection, however, I read an article by the BBC this week in the changes being made to the Hintze Hall at the Natural History Museum in London. […]

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Just own it.

For the masochists amongst you (yes you know who you are) that follow both my and Missy’s site, you will pick up on an overlap of our lives in our writing. Missy recently wrote about us having a discussion to establish our dynamic further by understanding our perspectives on certain issues; After all, we are evolving […]

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That’s when I fell for the…

The concept of leadership in my adult life has always interested me.  I am one of these people who gets seriously hacked off when I witness people in positions of authority passing themselves off as leaders.  Having authority does not make a leader, you just have authority.  Since my early twenties I’ve looked at people in […]

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Conflict

I read somewhere that ‘conflict is a natural part of the creative circle’ or words to that effect. I can agree with that in part, although there’s little creativity in not speaking, which is how a lot of conflict ends up with couples. I’m a strong  believer that you can work towards the avoidance of […]

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Negotiating (The big sit down)

For the past 20 years or more, negotiation has been a key element in my day job.  I’ve been fortunate enough to negotiate with some really nice people and equally I have dealt with people who you wouldn’t want to meet on a dark night.  Each encounter provided me with a learning experience which will, […]

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What’s the kick?

One of my favourite rituals is having Missy waiting in bed for me with the duvet pulled down to reveal her breasts. She does this every night because I like it.  A half naked woman has something special about her whether she be in bed, in jeans or just in knickers parading around. I looked […]

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Dom and Dommer

I read a post recently on dating alpha males. I should’t have been annoyed by it, as I think I am a very accepting person, however, it did. The author was trying to explain that Dominant men were the best types to date. It was all a little kink/romantic pulp fiction type view point, and […]

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“I’m a Sure Thing” (quote)

Recently, events changed the way I perceive my life.  The daily treadmill of working life stopped for a moment, sufficiently so to throw me off and then continue as if nothing had happened. The wheel turned and  I could only stand and watch.  An observer of modern industry at work in its foulsest form.  I […]

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So you wanna’ be a Dom?

Before we go any further, this is not an attempt to set myself up as guru. I am far from that. I don’t like the term ‘expert’ either in play or business. It sets people up on a pedestal and with a high likelyhood of criticism or failure. I prefer the term ‘skilled’ or ‘highly […]

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Loss of Employment, Dominance and Submission

If you’ve ever lost your job through redundancy, then you’ll probably know where this post is going. If you haven’t experienced it first hand or are ever likely to, second hand redundancy through a partner can be equally as bad. Like an unexpected announcement from a doctor that says your sore throat needs a rectal […]

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