Codependency

I somewhat feel like I have written about this topic many times, however, I know it is more likely I have played it in my head over and over again. I had an urge to start at the beginning, however, I know you are busy and really just need a nice short post to get […]

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Love Letter (regret, only for not posting last week!)

I remember the very first day I met you.  To the backdrop of noisy children playing Brazilian football I engaged in conversation with your younger sister who was also attending the session with her son. You sat down to my right and your, unbeknown to me, sister on my left. She introduced you to me […]

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Invitation Only

The day had been pretty busy, what with the travelling the night before and then the full-on day listening to speaker’s presentations and then delivering one of their own.  Having managed to book somewhere in advance for food with an early table, it was back to the hotel for a quick fuck, shower and change […]

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Romance

An odd thing happened this evening.  I typed a post for the ‘Romance’ topic, and having asked missy what she thought, her response was interesting.  It transpired that I had written the complete opposite to her.  I had focused on my lack of romance and blamed it on D/s making me a bit too serious, […]

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Objectification

The whole concept of objectification was a mental wrestling match for me.  Having just got my head around the theory of D/s some 8 years ago, objectification brought a whole new layer. Imagine if you will entering into a discussion where your wife confesses a desire whereby she wants, but won’t openly accept, that she […]

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Pain

Даже боль имеет свою радость. (Russian Proverb) Even pain has its joy, is so very true.  This saying is old and has travelled well; unless of course you are remembering the Ukrainian 2007 entry in the Eurovision Song Contest. (puts fingers in ears) However, aside from the chemical formulae that is often banded about to […]

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Control #tellmeabout

When I first entered into the world of D/s I was continually being told that control was the be-all and end-all of of the relationship. To be dominant you not only had to be in control, you really had to get off on it otherwise you were not really a Dominant. Well for starters, I […]

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Training #Tellmeabout

When the topic of training was decided for #tellmeabout I felt comfortable that it would be a fairly straight forward subject to write about. I was wrong!  I normally write without reading other’s entries, however, leaving it so late I fell into the trap of reading all the posts before getting to mine; this made […]

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Resets – #Tellmeabout

In a dark corner of warehouse there is probably is a man desperately trying to make a reset button.  His vision is that when you hit it, all previous misdemeanours are evaporated without discussion and everything starts again, like a new day.  But this man, whilst being a visionary, is ironically short-sighted.  If such a […]

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Scenes – #Tellmeabout

The word ‘scene’ in a D/s context is pretty well chosen when you consider one of the general definitions; ‘a sequence of continuous action in a play, film, opera, or book.’ I suppose to some extent sexual play is an opera, film, book or play; lots of drama, slightly voyeuristic from a Dom’s perspective, staged […]

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