Expectations

Why does the word ‘Expectation’ have such negative connotations?  It is all, ‘Have low expectations and you’ll never be disappointed’ or ‘I find my life better with low expectations.’  The internet is awash with hundreds of such statements. All I can say is there must be a lot people out there aiming low or with […]

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Headspace – Tell Me About Topic

  Dominant headspace. What allows me to access my Dominant headspace? What does it feel like when I am in this space and how does it differ to the way that I think and feel at other times?  Supporting people to try and find their headspace is much easier that finding my own. Telling people […]

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Goals

Having spent the best part of 2020 in disruption, mainly due to Covid, we both felt that 2021 should not be a repeat year. After all, things can only get better, right? In all seriousness, missy and I looked at what 2021 might look like for us. Where might kids be in terms of study […]

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My Sexual Journey – If you’re interested.

It’s easy it simplify personal reflection; skip the bits that seem irrelevant to you and normalise the unusual. After all, you live with your own tales and memories every day, so it’s understandable that to dumb things down is a naturally occurring event. Having said that, sometimes, and not often, you recall an event where […]

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Desire

Standing, now, in the middle of the apartment living area, she felt she couldn’t remember clearly the last 30 minutes.  They were important, those lost minutes, and yet it really didn’t matter in the greater scheme of things how she got here, just why.  The why was clear to her; he said he wanted it […]

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A monologue – Doors & Sex

Since retirement I’ve made the front garden my project, you know, to make it look nice.  Roses down one side, maybe a small pond, and maybe a fountain too I’m thinking; pop in a couple gold fish too maybe.   I have it planned out, well on paper at least. At the moment it’s paving slabs, […]

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Old Soldiers Never Die

The two friends were members of the Middlesex Regiment and had been in the battle for Hong Kong in 1941 before both being captured by the Japanese and interned in a POW camp until 1945. They were in some ways very lucky because they came home, when many others didn’t.  After the war they returned […]

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Masks

In the UK during the Georgian period (1714-1830)  it was fashionable for the rich and famous to attend events held in London’s Pleasure Gardens.  It was in some respect the start of commercialised leisure whereby tickets were sold at prices that only those with a disposable income could afford.  One might assume that only those […]

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AV Wand – Product Review

Bestvibe.com offered me the AV Wand  to try, which I happy accepted as this wand was cordless, rechargeable and travel sized. It also looked a bit cool being black with a little white collar! Out of the box the wand has a nice feel to it; that usual soft-to-touch surface you associate with a lot […]

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Flogging

Despite the fact we don’t do a great deal of flogging, I do enjoy it.  I would probably say that I have never really executed a flogging scene, or a scene that involved much flogging, depending on your point of view. My initial attraction to flogging was the look of them, and of the smell.  […]

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