Our D/s journey has been by and large one of discovery, both personal and as a team. It hasn’t all been about the power exchange and sexual exploration, there’s a lot more to it. We have both bought baggage to our second-time-around marriage and without D/s we may not have addressed it in such an […]
It is no secret that missy and I have discovered the joint thrill of taking photographs of her, and occassionaly the two of us together. When we first started out in our relationship I sometimes introduced a camera to capture our early encounters, however, they were our pictures and saved just for us. That was […]
It’s been sometime since I wrote something personal, for which I really have no excuse other than not having the desire to it. This morning though is different. I came down to the kitchen to be welcomed by our puppy in the usual ‘I’ve not seen your for years’ type excitement and a big smile […]
I’ve not posted in sometime. A literary desert as it were. Most of the time inspiration is readily available, and usually because I have something to say about it. I’ve just not had the inertia for it, until today that is! No, it’s not a rant, although, since buying a dog and walking her, I […]
There’s always chat about vanilla and non-vanilla activity in a D/s relationship. They are only words that help people understand what’s going on at the time, a bit like ‘You Are Here’ on a laminated tourist map. I’m sure you have your own thoughts on such terms and whether you like them or not. I […]
Do you use your blog to communicate to your partner? Don’t worry, this isn’t a deep and meaningful post full of dramatic skylines and prosaic monologue! I’m just curious if you are in a similar position. Missy and I have the ability to communicate quite well (although there’s always room for improvement) and not all […]
I have often said that D/s can provide people with a level of openness that is safe and protected. The relationship is based on trust, trust to expose your heart and soul without accusation or retribution. A D/s relationship is the grown up version of the average relationship I like to think. It isn’t just […]
Reflecting on the past couple of months activities, I realised the value of being with people who are like-minded. Ignoring a working environment for a moment, unless you are engaged in the sex industry in one form or another, its the kinky and sexual side I refer to. As you are aware, missy and I […]
Since we started the SWC I have had the pleasure of reading the hopes, dreams and exasperations of both subs and Doms. One recurring theme is the sometimes disparity between a couples’ starting point into D/s and the speed at which they move forward. It is pretty safe to say that the first one over […]
In a recent chat event on the SWC many subs were interested to hear about Dom Drop, what that felt like for a Dom and what caused it. I was asked to write something on the subject, so here goes! Before I touch on my own personal experience, I decided to do a little research […]