A2Z Challenge – G is for Group Sex

Ok, I admit that I have a bit of a thing for group sex. Not that I have ever experienced it beyond me and one other person, and two doesn’t officially classify as a group, or for that matter a queue!  It comes down to that hedonism thing again.  Total abandonment of all inhibitions and hangups. I have watched homemade porn with couples having sex together, and whilst the definition of porn meets its aims, it’s the interaction that fascinates me.  The complete comfort that some people have engaging in relaxed sexual activity. I think it’s quite cool that individuals can be so chilled out about it and have trust that they are closely connected in that act.

Casting aside the question of could we or would we for a moment, I admit that I am not experienced in this form of play, however, is it any different from introducing any new forms of play?  One would assume that a lot of discussion had taken part prior to the activity to establish rules between an established couple, and then for all parties to sit and discuss boundaries. Makes sense to me!  One thing for sure is that from a Dom’s perspective, their Sub’s well-being is the single most priority during any activity.  Forgetting your role could well be tested in the heat of battle.  Such activities, if not used to playing with others, places an established relationship under a lot of pressure if not handled well. I mean, you could really fuck things up!

The first question I raised is could we?  I think we could in theory. The idea is not beyond the scopes of our imagination and in the right situation, with the right people, who knows.  Being up for anything once is a great mantra as long at you have discussed it with the one that means the most to you. If it’s not good to go for both, then it’s a no-go in my opinion.  Of course that outcome is based on reassurance, being and staying in control and trust.

The second question is would we?  Well I suppose that depends on the outcome of the paragraph above.  Could and would are different things, but linked by desire or motivation.  Being able to say, ‘Shall we play with Jack and Diane tonight because they are fun,’ would be great as long as you knew that the after the event you were close, or closer afterwards.

I have no idea if such an opportunity will present itself or for that matter if I would instigate it.  What I am sure of is that missy and I will be honest with one another and being open and transparent from the word go is a given.  Missy currently knows I have an idea for such games and she is open to the concept in a perfect storm scenario. Conditions have to be favourable before we set sail with a multiple crew and that we could navigate home again!

One of the main advantages of being in a close D/s relationship is that all types of experimental play can be discussed without either one taking offence or threatened through insecurities. I am often surprised at my own reactions to statements made by missy on occassion in that I find it interesting and stimulating opposed to being upset or worried.

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5 Comments

  1. I like that your relationship is always at the forefront of any decision, I think that’s extremely important in all scenarios but especially one like this. I too am shocked at what me and PS can discuss openly without any negative feelings, where I know they would have existed (atleast for me) before D/s. Interesting read once again HL.

  2. I can relate to both what you and gem have written, and how D/s has enabled such open and honest discussion and exploration, thank you for sharing x

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