Firstly, a big thank you to those of you either commented on my last post or sent a private message. I was rather surprised to be honest, not that I stood alone on this subject, a the few did say, “Me too!”
What is the term for a slow day for a Dom? A slom? Actually, if I am harsh with myself it is probably a ‘Slob!’ I discussed this with Missy and she was correct in pointing out that reflecting on being a Dom was not all about yanking down knickers and giving your best shot. She is quite right, having a fairly normal day can be laced with Dominant traits.
I was distracted yesterday I have to admit. I was called by a recruitment firm to ask me to attend an interview. The position is for a company that was once my rival before I was made redudant. Can you see why I was distracted? ‘Pay back time’ I was thinking for a while, and then I put my big boy trousers back on and started to read everything I could on this future employer.
Missy later sent me a text explaining she felt ‘odd’ and that she would not come home for lunch as previously discussed. I issued an inststence that she eat something, but soon realised that she would not eat regardless. I offered to bring food to work should she feel better.
Later that evening we had our regular chat session on-line at the SWC. Without going into too much detail, I felt the need to provide support to a number of friends who were singled out because of their views and potentaily their gender. Whilst at the time I viewed this as a natural response, I suppose I could have quite easily left the matter alone and stood in the shadows.
My point here is that being Dominant is about being the positive version of you. You can’t be a type cast dominant all the time. You would be singled out and ridiculed for being a freaky. I mean, who comes to work wearing black and trying to be a fictional character in a book? Being dominant is about being normal and doing normal things that have a positive influence on others, even if they are unaware of them at the time.