Dear readership, is has been 49 days since my last post.  I have tried, well sort of tried, however, the words or ideas just were not there.  I worked away from home for the majority of December and I do tend to get a bit self absorbed when I do that.  I have a number of drafts started with weird (for me) titles, and yet the rest didn’t follow.  If I was using twitter I could have posted any old crap in 40 characters and received a million followers by morning; yes I know, that is an exaggeration and probably insulting to Twerts or what ever Twitter authors are called.  I did not want to write a pre-Christmas post and I didn’t then want to write a reflection piece (Mirror, Mirror on the wall) and yes, I did start one.

I do think it is good to reflect, however, I spend a lot of time thinking about the past and that causes me some concern when done in isolation. If I’m looking for happiness in the past, what does that say about my future?  Like all things, a balance is required, unless it’s cheese, good wine or licorice, or sex and maybe Italian food. Either way, planning for the future is very good for you. It gives you a ‘look forward to’ moment and certainly provides little milestones to keep you motivated.

I want to be a better person to me this year.  I want to enjoy the time I have and do stuff with it.  Being a better parent is high up there, certainly being a better Dom and husband.  I also want to be a better friend and son.  How will I achieve this?  With some moderated reflection, and certainly a lot of planning.  I get asked a lot by new Doms who come to the SWC, how do you become a better Dom? And the stock answer is ‘communication.’  This is true, however, in isolation you would only ever talk and get nothing done!  Planning is another key element and fundamental to growth and fulfilment. So I will be planning more this year, regardless of what life throws, or doesn’t throw at me, I will have a plan.  Item 1 on the plan; write better posts!