We Couldn’t Have Dreamt For This…

arcDespite being in the UK, I have a number of on-line friends who live in the USA, and in particular some in Texas.  Many of you will have either seen the terrible weather or be experiencing it first hand. Due to my loose connection with Texas, I have been watching the news coverage with interest through the BBC.

I was surprised, to say the least, when I watched a press conference being held by FEMA, briefing on the current situation of rain fall and public evacuations.  One of the spokesmen said, “We couldn’t have dreamt for this (weather) to happen.”  I was slightly shocked that an organisation like FEMA, with whom I have a good working knowledge though my line of work, would not have planned for worse case scenario.  To be fair, it’s not the first time there has been flooding along that coast line.

I’ll leave FEMA to sort out where to find more buckets and turn this post in direction it is supposed to flow.  As I eluded to above, my line of work is managing crisis. I’m very good at cutting through the fog of war to find solutions, the pressure brings clarity in a weird sort of way; and so I find it funny that when I faced D/s crisis in the early days, I went blank!  I mention this because I have spoken to a few Doms who have faced the same issue, only more recently.  It was either scene going wrong or their sub becoming unhappy.

I have managed to boil it down to emotion investment.  Being a Dom or a Sub entails a lot of emotional nakedness, and not to mention just plain nakedness.  I know of people whose marriages were on the rocks and D/s saved them. Entering into that kind of recovery relationship must be really scary; make or break time!  For Missy and I that wasn’t the case, we had expelled our broken marriages before getting together. D/s was an extension of our already kinky journey, however, that is not to say that everyday is a new one!

In essence we are placing a lot of emotions into a tight space, not dissimilar to animals on an Arc.  Everything is getting on nicely until one of the Lions eats a duck, then feathers really start to fly. No wonder Noah had grey hair!  I’m sure, if the tale is true, Mr & Mrs Noah sat down before hand and discussed the worst possible outcome before the rain started to fall. They strike me as a traditional couple with an interest in carpentry, livestock, and a big family.  Obviously food and water wasn’t going to be an issue in the long term should thing not work out, and yet I like to think they discussed the emotional toll on themselves and their family.  Not dissimilar to a D/s relationship, there’s a lot at stake and you want it to work, so it’s important to talk about what could go wrong and work through it. Certain scenes need prior discussion as do the rules that you both choose to live by.

So, before putting yourself out there, like FEMA and Noah, look at the risks involved and possibly the worse case scenario. Talk through it and have a recovery plan. You’ll get back on course much faster with one and learning from your mistakes may not have the same emotional obstacles.


I received an email from a friend living in Texas after he read my post. His account of the weather and the devastation is being caused is only a fraction of that being reported in the UK.  Out of respect for those affected I would like to acknowledge that I was in no way trying to dumb down the trauma such events cause and hope that the people caught in the flood areas are safe and well.  


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  1. Let me preface this by saying that, I have never been to Texas, nor in my personal life, have ever been faced with anything like what Houston, SE Texas and southern Louisiana are facing. I also know that you would never post something that was not meant to be educational.

    FEMA does not have the best reputation among most Americans, however, when it comes to natural disaster planning, they are a response organization, not first responders. They also have very little say in evacuation or shelter planning. Yes, there is worst case planning, but what is going on currently is far beyond anyone’s imagination.

    I’ve been watching live local news coverage the past three days, and not one local person has said they expected it to be this bad. Houston and the surrounding area is one great clay floodplain and floods every couple of years. Complicating the matter is that better flood control hasn’t been addressed due to numerous jurisdictions who haven’t been able to cooperate. Compounding this, is the fact that Houston has no zoning laws. You can build anything you like anyplace.

    Hurricane Harvey has dumped a year’s worth of rain in less than a week. No system would have prevented flooding, when two inches brings water over streets in a normal storm. In a city of 2 million, with over 6 million in the Metro area, there isn’t much evacuation anyone could order, when the massive flooding is occurring in residential areas that have never flooding before.

    It is true that people should plan ahead and have plenty of food and water, but that does little good when your home has four feet of water rush through the front door. I saw one home a couple of days ago along Buffalo Bayou. The homes were built on stilts over thirty feet above the water level. The flooding still came at least two feet into the lower level of the home.

    What has been happening over the past two days, is thousands of people using personal boats and trucks to rescue stranded people because the combined efforts of law enforcement, the National Guard and the Coast Guard have been overwhelmed by the catastrophe.

    You can watch a livestream on local ABC13 or FOX26 in Houston. It is worse than any disaster movie could ever portray.

    • If it keeps raining, the 350 crocs might swim out of the nature reserve and into the Houston river. It’s literal on the verge of being a scifi B-Movie at this point.

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