I know immediately that my Missy will both recognise the quote I have used above, and be pleased that I have chosen Hamlet. I know that as a teacher, and a lover of literature, my acknowledgement of a Shakeperian quote sparks something in her mind that is pleasing. That is why I used it! If I can press both emotional and physical buttons in that order I am meeting her needs and in return she will meet mine. It’s a partnership, a relationship, a dynamic and it’s us.
I used this quote to match my post topic. Capturing Dreams and Fantasies. Missy and I talk about our fantasies as do many couples, however, it is quite often difficult to articulate what our fantasies are. To me they are like a dream from the previous night. More of a feeling than a thought or something you can’t quite put your finger in on. It’s quite hard to transfer an emotional feeling or part dream into an actual scene. Have you ever assembled something sexual in your mind at 10am and by 10pm it’s lost? Aside from keeping a sexual scrap book for later reference, which is no bad idea and probably marketable, being able to articulate one’s fantasies can be tricky. I’m sure most of my current fantasies are known to Missy, even the ones that in a vanilla relationship would require exorcism. They change often, and like dreams fade away only to be replaced with newer versions.
I don’t yet think I’ve perfected my questioning technique with Missy regarding fantasies. She often pulls a rabbit from the hat and surprises me, however, I do think she holds back something dark and lovely. Behind those ‘come fuck me eyes’ lurks a mind probably full of dreams, like clouds of purple and red smoke whirling around forming new erotic shapes. She obviously has to be careful, for both of us have trouble finding the STOP button when in the right frame of mind. One has to be careful at our age…….