It would have been so very easy in the beginning to have found a book full of scene ideas. How to set up a scene, why it’s important to communicate, what equipment to use and where best conduct a kinky sexual event. There have lots of resources to tap in to despite missing a book: people’s stories, fellow Dom’s giving advice and of course our own twisted imaginations. The problem was, how to fit it all together?
If I had owned an almanac of BDSM scenes it would in all honestly have been disastrous. I was like a kid in a sweet shop to start with having just been offered my wife’s submission. I just know I would have ripped off all the wrapping and jumped from one scene to the next, rushing, not communicating and failing terribly. I’m a strong believer that more lessons are learnt from your mistakes in life. If I had a book, I would have only blamed my errors on the author. As it turns out, I didn’t have a book and the mistakes I made were mine alone and boy did I make a few! Most of my mistakes were down to the fact that I had a idea in my head and either I didn’t think it through or didn’t discuss it, especially when we were both trying to find trust.
Now we are in a different place, fewer mishaps and greater trust. Tonight, as an example of positive behaviours, it will be different. I will be incorporating restraint (chair), hot wax and nipple clamps. Coupled with a blindfold and Doxy Wand, I intend to take her senses further than before. A good spanking to start and forced orgasm to conclude. I’ll post this mid-scene having read it aloud whilst she is tied up, and blindfolded. “Only a safe word can save you now Missy!”