For the last 20 years, products have come to the market that boast, “You will have greater control.” Be this your bank account, your car, and even how to watch television. The strange this is, there is an undertone that the greater the control you have, the less you have to worry about. One could argue that the less you have to worry about, the less focus you need.
Hands free car phones are supposed to give you more, ‘ control of your life’ when in fact it’s proven to distract you and give a higher risk of shortening your life! Now that probably seems little extreme for just a simple blog post, however, my point is this; Having greater control comes with greater responsibility. You’ve already joined up the dots here I’m sure!
Being Dominant in a D/s relationship, particularly in a long term/married relationship means that your control is 24/7. It isn’t bondage type control obviously, it’s more proactive support. Having control of the long term development of our relationship requires me to be supportive whilst trying to keep a 24/7 kink dynamic alive and kicking.
We have faced many challenges in the last two years, all place different stresses upon our relationship. Fortunately D/s allows us to have a framework that stops us from arguing and being disrespectful to one another. Moody silences are a thing of the past and if things go wrong, we have a plan to sort it out; a control template if you will.
Taking control requires competence from you and trust from your partner. Control is not about the easy route or easy option; it’s about knowing the rules, risks and rewards, otherwise where’s the worth if it’s handed to you on a plate?
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