My name is HisLordship, for the benefit of the BDSM community.  I have been in D/s relationship with my wife for the past two years and it has completely changed my life for the better.  For those of you who are in a similar situation, you will probably know what I’m referring too. It’s not just about the sex, although, the physical side of the dynamic is brilliant!

For us, D/s has improved our ability to communicate, send a clear message to people around us that traditional values of politeness, caring and loving are normal.  Bitching about your partner to your friends is something other people do; people who lack respect for their partners and cannot be bothered to invest in their relationship.

Am I some freaky person who should be sniggered about?  Do I lurk about the shadows preying on young people and wear tank top from the 1970s?  Of course not.  I am a married man with a large family of great children and a sexy wife. I have my own business, do DIY and enjoy cooking. I’m quite safe to be around and in most cases am considered to be a nice person. The fact that I enjoy BDSM and really get off on it does not in any way detract me from being a moderately sensible, loving, caring parent who trys to do his best in life. I am not a religious person, however, I do believe in the human spirit and that the majority of people on the planet are good.